Be the Shining Star, with Sexy Photos

Flirt, Tease, and Arouse, In and Out Of the Bedroom: Dr. Patti talks to Lucas Hopkins, Gifted Photographer and Master Creator of Passionate Delights

Hi, I’m Dr. Patti Taylor, of ExpandedLovemaking.com, and I have a real question for you: How would you like to be a *Shining Star* tonight?

Whether you’re the lovely subject, or the hero-photographer, many women fantasize about being photographed by a lover (or a savvy stranger) who knows how to bring out their inner turn-on, whether they are in their animal moods, or their sweet, tender, deep sensual self. Or … you name it? Maybe several sides want to emerge!

As the photographer, you get to set the stage and capture all this! In this show you will be inspired to both receive and/or take intimate photos. And, also, to tease, flirt, arouse, and turn your partner on!

And, perhaps you’ll learn a little more about what goes on in someone else’s art studio while you’re having your busy day?

And perhaps you’ll fantasize about changing careers? You might after hearing this podcast!

You’ll definitely learn some fabulous tips on sensuality, flirting, arousing, and sex, and hear a really fun show!

Check out the show and see for yourself what turns you on. Happy Listening!

And, BE SURE TO VIEW LUCAS’S INCREDIBLE PHOTOS at as a part of this experience.
www.shadowdancerphotography.com

Listen to the show here:
http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/expanded-lovemaking/episode016-lucas-hopkins-master-creator-of-passionate-delights.html


Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

Ready for an Adventure?

When’s the last time you turned took off your shoes, locked the door, and took an hour to sink into a fabulous travelogue that took you places you’ve always wanted to go? Even if you can’t remember, I’m guessing that it’s something you’d like to do, basically, any day of the week.

Now, when’s the last time you took the phone off the hook, lit some candles, put on your favorite music, and took the time to learn all about your own body? (Not to mention your partner’s body on some other day!)

If this is something you’d like to do, and haven’t, it may be simply that you don’t know how. Sheri Winston will show and encourage! She’s a registered nurse, a sexual educator and counselor—in her own terms, a WomanCraft teacher and a “pelvic priestess”. Plus, she’s warm and fun to listen to!

Anton Diaz draws her out in this amazing show which inspired me deeply.

Impressed by Sheri’s presence on the show, I went to her website, www.sheriwinston.com, where I found a virtual motherlode of articles that will help guide anyone wanting to learn more about the maps to orgasmic pleasure: maps of the clitoris, stages of female arousal , “puffing and pumping the bulbs”, and SO MUCH more.

There are over 35 articles, and links to other websites as well! You’ll want to bookmark this page.

This show is a total treasure. You and your partner will delight in hearing Anton and Sheri “dance together” as they encourage and inspire all of us!

Dr. Patti Taylor,
www.ExpandedLovemaking.com

Listen Here to “Wholistic Sexuality” with Anton and Sheri:
http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/expanded-lovemaking/episode013-sheri-winston-wholistic-sexuality.html

Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

Is this the End or Intermission?

Expanded Lovemaking, practiced as an art form, is about getting out of our story, and sticking with the processes we learn, through thick and thin.

Yesterday, we had been flirting, doing nice things for each other, rubbing elbows, blowing kisses, and cuddling. I was generally sending out those “come get me signals” all day.

So, when we finally started our Expanded Orgasm date, within moments I was climbing up a staircase of sensation that carried us both along, like a river effortlessly carries a raft with two happy people aboard. My breathing was full and deep and whole-bodied. I spread the sensation to prevent myself from going over the edge too soon. His expert hands were simultaneously like butter and like rubber bands, melting into me and yet pulling me this way and that, confusing me enough to send my body singing into a sweet surrendered song.

Like a symphony filling Music Hall, several sensational crescendos began building perfectly. That is, until my beloved slowed down, suddenly, his touch eking its way over the next two minutes to a draggy drawl.

Okay, how, what, and why? But, by the time I had stopped to ponder as much, my body had come in for a semi-orgasmic landing. I had “gone over a low edge”: going over an edge, but not a truly satisfying, or completely definitive “finale” kind of edge, be it a star-birth, epiphany, magic-carpet ride, or anything that has a name.

We could have put on our best appearances, ending there, grateful for all that we did experience. Hey, let’s just give it two more minutes, he suggested. I agreed, and we started to play again.

Patiently, he lovingly played with my most delicate flower while I did my best to feel anything. I couldn’t. Not two, but rather, five minutes of no feeling must have gone by before suddenly I felt something felt really, really good! And up we went, and up, up, and away from there.

And that’s the real story here. We took our attention off our frustration, and returned to the art of having presence, feeling, connection, and pleasure. Rather than getting stuck, we retuned to our practice, and our art. Did we make totally new and amazing music together? Yes!

And, we learned something new: Low edges do not always mean the end of a date! They may just be a very promising intermission!

Yours in ever-expanding love,
Dr. Patti Taylor
www.ExpandedLovemaking.com

Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

Falling as I'm Climbing

I was well into my sensual pleasuring date the other day with my beloved. His right hand was placed firmly on my favorite spot on my clit, and his left hand was delicately balanced, with two fingers up to the second knuckle, reaching in and teasing my G-spot. My partner was reaching into me – or was I reaching into him? I felt waves of pleasurable sensation pulsing all the way from my my abdomen to my thighs. I even felt micro-pulses inside my vaginal canal that just about took me over the edge time and time again, but each time, I relaxed to spread the energy. Long ago Mr. Fabulous had learned not to drop me when we reached these places. Still, I could feel myself searching for his next wave of touches.

Delicious waves of sensation alternately crept through me, and then shot through me, delivering doses of pure feeling that just seemed to fill me with just about as much pleasure as I could handle. In those moments, just subtle seconds, my whole being wanting to hold on, even grab a little, and ask for more. Then I would drop back, into relaxation, to savor for a few split seconds more, the energy coursing through my neural networks. This seemed to be going on in cycles.

“Wow”, my beloved said, “You're falling as you're climbing”.

He gave me more sensation within a moment or two, careful not to drop me in the process. In my orgasmic reverie, I considered this comment. How often things make sense “out there”. And how nice, that, finally, in pure pleasure, they don’t have too.

Pleasure thrives in a place of not making perfect sense! I'm reaching as I'm relaxing, and enjoying as I'm letting go.

So here's wishing you a day where at least one thing in it doesn't make total sense just because it's so totally wonderful!

Yours in ever-expanding love,

Dr. Patti Taylor

www.ExpandedLovemaking.com

PS: I have a special request. If you have read my book Expanded Orgasm, and enjoyed it, I would love it if you would consider posting a review for me on www.Amazon.com? (it doesn't have to be long or eloquent, just your own words.) And, it can even be from "a reader" if you wish. Many thanks!

P.S.S. Get ready: Very shortly, I'll be announcing the opening of my new Internet audio podcast show on Expanded Lovemaking! It's going to be really hot and super fun!

Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

Keeping It Smooth

Keeping it Smooth….

Keeping it smooth… is something I also call “continuity of touch”. It is one of the easiest sexual techniques you can to learn to apply to whisk your lover into those legendary and magical places. And it is also one of the nicest of techniques, of course, to receive. It is an excellent technique to start with for bringing someone into a more expanded state of being using physical touch.

What is continuous, anyway? We think usually of continuous as something that is unbroken through time. Smooth, slinky, silky, swishy, glide-y, sexy… continuous feelings evoke sensuous moods. You want to sway your body, dance to the music, let go of the rigid control of the mind, and start to feel the music. Even now, feel the feelings in your being. Are you ready to let this state of “Smoooottthhhhh…..” share the real estate in your consciousness? Just thinking about being smooth has some people naturally begin to let go and relax.

So keep it smooth when you touch your partner, and watch the results of your date go up, up and away! You’ll want to begin by feeling smooth actions in your own body first. Run your hand up and down your own body, so continuously that you don’t stop or even notice little pauses. This can and most likely will take some practice! (Three minutes is more than enough). Once you have this mastered, extend smoothly, sweetly, luxuriously, … continuously… to touch your partner’s arm or face.

What feels good on an arm or face feels just as good on your partner’s genitals. But a few differences do exist between stroking arms and your beloved’s most private parts! Continuous stroking on genitals is a key ingredient to expanding orgasms. However, it’s a little – no, a lot less charge-y to start on your sweetheart’s alluring arm or fabulous face than on her red-hot and possibly throbbing vagina (or his crowning glory), so do take the time to practice continuity on the easy places first! Plus, it’ll turn your partner on like crazy.

Okay, once you’re here, at the nerve-rich clitoris, or g-spot, (for women) or penis and prostate (for men) … remember what you learned! Make your touch continuous and smooth and you’ll find the two of you transported on a bullet train to bliss!

So keep it smooth, baby…, keep it smooth….

Till next time,

Yours in ever sweet, smooth, silky, slithery and sensational Expanding Love,

Dr. Patti
www.ExpandedLovemaking.com

Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

Happy New You!

Dear Expanded Lovemakers,

Have you heard the one where the Zen Monk goes to New York City and orders a hot dog from a vendor? He says, “Make me one with everything”. The vendor makes him a hot dog and takes his money. The monk expects his money back and when he doesn't get it says, “Where’s my change?” “Ah”, says the vendor “Change comes from within.”

This joke reveals how we much expect the right thing to happen at the right place and time. The same event becomes funny when it’s the right thing at the wrong time.

Aren’t we all just chock-full of thousands of judgments about what's right and wrong? What if we could just dump those judgments and enjoy every moment – especially during sex?

How cool would that be, since, when it comes to sex and pleasure, right and wrong events usually do not lead to harmless laughter, but often to more serious developments, like shutting down, embarrassment, trauma, hurt, and fear. Plus, we quit having fun with sex.

Have you got lots of judgments right this very nano-second about sexuality – yours, mine, and everyone else's? Are you wondering, “Wow. I’d love to drop my judgments about sex. But how?”

AH!!! Here’s the true secret of enlightenment: It’s as close as a subtle shift away. (In other words, enlightened sex is not to be found in with some guru in the Himalayas…. It’s in a Hot Dog Vendor!) Okay… just kidding on this one.

Seriously, though. You don’t need to go to the Himalayas…. It’s all here, in your own, simple, amazing attitude about fun. Just keep asking yourself, would you rather be right, or have fun?

So the next time your lover slips on a banana peel – (say it’s *your* greased clit or cock), and their hand flies, on a fumble, up your nose… well, did you know that the nose is full of erectile tissue? If your nose knows this isn’t the place to be, solicit their slithering digits to slide slippery-slope down to your lips! Aha…. more erectile tissue! Now maybe lips are more to your liking (and licking)? Hmm, perhaps, now’s the time to become one with everything… wink, wink….starting with that friendly finger fondling your galactic smile!

Happy New You! To all my Dear Readers,

In Expanded Laughter,

Dr. Patti
www.ExpandedLovemaking.com

Copyright 2006 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

Advice to Love to Love You, Babe

Dear Dr. Patti,

I love my husband, and he loves me, but he's been working so hard lately that we never seem to have the chance to just unwind, and you know what that means. Unwinding leads to a yummy massage, which leads to even hotter action! I can't seem to get our frolicking love-fest started. He’s so focused on what happened during the day that when we get to bed all he wants to do is chill. How can we start our transition? Signed, Love to Love You, Babe

Dear Love to Love You, Babe,
I got the picture. Hubby is happy to hug, but can't switch off the Work Channel. Did someone else gain possession your remote? Well, fight fire with fire, by hiring him yourself, tonight! At dinner, pull out his appointment book and make an entry for nine o'clock this evening. Negotiate some duties. Make them really easy and fun ones, like slowly trickling his pinky in the crease of your elbow, or tracing his tongue around the sides of your ear lobe. Charge him like, fifteen dollars. (Depending on the guy, some guys might actually respond with greater glee if you actually make them pay *you* for the privilege of letting them do this to you.) You know your guy. If he’s in the kind of a mood where he wants or needs a challenge instead, you can plan a session where he's to grace your gorgeous g-spot (once you’re fully engorged, of course!) with at least three new creative ideas. Anyway, what have you got to lose? Everything glorious and good starts with a single pleasurable stroke!

Yours in ever expanding love,

Dr. Patti

www.ExpandedLovemaking.com


Copyright 2006 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

My trip to Niagara Falls

Last night started out on a pretty low note. I had a minor injury at the gym, and, quite frankly, I was feeling somewhat sorry for myself. I was not in the mood for fun, love, or pleasure. Okay - I was in a really good, deep, blue, good old-fashioned funk. A tailspin. My partner tried talking to me. I was kind enough to tell him empathy would go further than advice. He switched from talking to hugging, and that helped some.

Now I going to ask you to guess, what are the chances that we could have had any kind of a reasonable sensual connection? Here are your choices: “One in 10”. “Could be anything”. “I have no idea”. Or “Excellent”. Give this some thought.

The answer is “Excellent”. The path of Expanded Lovemaking is a profound path. We train ourselves to live moment by moment, and to use each moment as fuel to inform and feed our lovemaking. The ups, and even the downs, are grist for the mill, and fire for our passions.

I knew that. But still, I had to get into that mindset.

On a night like last night, my needs for tenderness, loving, caring sensitivity, connection, and grounding touch were so strong that every kind of attention coming my way was certain to help me a change my present mindset channel into a far better scene.

Despite the prospects for perking up, part of me wanted to prolong my poor-me program. And this is where my “lover’s training” really came through. (Yes, you really can train to be a good lover!) I simply made an arbitrary decision to choose pleasure over pain.

I chose pleasure. I began to visualize Niagara Falls, and then myself, riding down it, effortlessly, on a magical raft, as if I were carried away into a cascade of fresh, churning, healing emotional pleasure. I savored this pooling of bliss while allowing heartfelt nurturing to stream rapidly (and joyfully) into my body, mind, and spirit.

Once I had made this choice, well … I leave it to your imagination to imagine what happened next!

Copyright 2006 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

Play Attention!~

Attention

Last night my partner was bugging me to tell him how other men stacked up to him as a lover. Naturally I was reluctant to answer him until I exacted several layers of promises that this information would not be used against me – or himself. After I had gotten a healthy dose of reassurance – looking deep into his eyes, taking his pulse, checking for fever, (ruling out temporary insanity), etc., I thought long and hard. Finally convinced of his sincerity, and also of his determination not to stop asking me, I answered.

With the best lovers, it's a matter of attention. They know how to find my favorite sensual and sexual spots to stay on, both inside and out. They know “where”, and “how” to touch. But it's more than that. They also know how to take me up and down, energetically, without dropping me. And that’s the timing, the “when”. Attention covers all of these points, all at once.

Imagine a plane trying to gain some loft. With just the right amount of acceleration, there will be a steady take off as the plane reaches enough altitude to go above the clouds. However, without enough combined sources of energy (the right mix of where, how, and when) in the beginning, that same plane becomes a “puddle-jumper” – it makes several trips up to tree-level, but then returns down to the ground, never to see the clouds. Puddle-jumpers never reach that critical loft, or effortless place (a.k.a. “the fun in the sun”). You do take a trip, but just not through the fabled clouds into lover-land.

Can you get there (or take someone there)? Yes! Attention ultimately creates that longed-for “lover’s loft”. So yes! It does take training, though, to have great attention. However, great attention has a super-charged payoff.

Attention is what has the giver of pleasure notice when his sensuous strokes are bringing you, the receiver, up too fast, or not fast enough. Attention is what has your partner notice when you need more stimulation, a softer touch, a stronger touch, or whatever! Attention has a great lover give you that symphony of perfect pleasure in every moment, just as you energetically reach for whatever it takes to climb to the next stair-step of sensation in the sky.

I thought my partner would faint by the end of my revelation. I checked his face. Would he be bright red or pasty white by now? But he was busily taking mental notes, paying a huge amount of attention to everything I was saying.

Smiling, he reassured me he’d heard everything I’d said. He then proceeded to get further clarification so that we could practice some advanced attention skills right away.

Ah, what wonderful things attention brought us last night!

Copyright 2006 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

A Recent Letter

The other day I got the following letter:

Dear Dr. Patti,

I'd just love to learn about Expanded Orgasm. But I'm not sure if I could survive coming for an hour! While I sure do love that explosion of pleasure, I find it hard enough to go over the edge for more than about two minutes, or have an orgasmic "session" that lasted longer than about twenty minutes. I'm afraid my nerves would get fried right down to the bone. Is there hope for someone like me?. Signed, Hopeful but maybe Fried

Dear Hopeful, (and can we drop the "Fried?"),

Expanded Orgasm is not about time... it's about experience beyond time .. and space. A person can be in a state of deep expanded orgasm for seconds, minutes, or hours - and this applies to men and women alike.

As for the nervous system, I'm thinking of the experience I had yesterday... my entire being (and its neurology!) was flooded with profoundly pleasurable sensation, streaming through like a river, continuously, as I continued to breathe deeply, nourishing my entire nervous system with feeling, and delight, and letting go. (I am guessing this part extended about twenty minutes.)

As I went 'over' the edge... (about five minutes, according to my partner, in clock time) ... actually more like, "though an edge" - I am thinking of the snowcap of a mountain, but now, this peak has rivers running from source, and this peak is alive with streaming, it's a domain with no beginning and no end, and my body is swept through to various levels of contractions, uterine, vaginal, labial, abdominal... transmuting into effortless sequences of full body vibrations.

So, afterwards, well, it's actually quite the opposite of feeling fried... it's deeply restorative, with a sense of powerful fullness and largeness - a sense of physical, energetic immensity.

Ultimately, it's about connecting with the Current, that universal OM...

So, of course, you can always start by getting my book (Expanded Orgasm: Soar to Ecstasy at Your Lover"s Every Touch) or take one of my courses (sign up to my email list at www.ExpandedLovemaking.com to find out about these!). I'm also planning to offer podcasts, and videocasts, and this is where you'll get all my latest information.

In the meantime, connect with curiosity with your partner. Go out of time, out of space. Let his finger find a good place on you and then.. let go of goals like going over the edge. (This sounds hard, but that"s where the fun begins!)

Yours in ever-orgasmic pleasure,
Dr. Patti


Copyright 2006 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

What is it About Words....?

What is it about words that are so powerful? Have you ever noticed how they have the ability to take you deeply into an experience .. or out of one?

Okay, I am not talking about the obvious stuff, like being in the middle of a delicious, vibrant, hot, wet, juicy, Expanded Orgasm date and having your partner yell, FIRE! Even I'd get up and run out of the room. (Assuming he wasn't referring to what he was feeling running up and down his arm). Presumably, my consciousness would be expanded enough to know whether to run or stay!

No, I am talking about common words. ..You feel soooo good... ..You look reallllllly pretty... These work! Rule of thumb.. anything that starts with the word ..YOU.. is going to make ..ME.. feel like the center of attention and feel pretty wonderful.

So how about when you really want to blast off? What can I say, as the receiver of pleasure, when my luscious lover is, well, just a little distracted? I want to take him out of his head, for one thing. Often, he's actually trying too hard to please me and it's backfiring.

"Spot! Where..s that $%&* Spot!" he's thinking, perhaps .. and he's in his head, and not watching/feeling/drooling over me. Or he's wondering how he's doing, or what I'm thinking, or, whatever. He's not feeling fire running up his arm, that's for sure, and neither am I!

I did this last night. We entered into a bit of a lull, and I asked my partner to get a little drunk with me. ..Be drunk in love.., I cooed. That catapulted him right out of his mind. I reminded him not to fall out of bed, or off my spot, but to sway a little in the breeze, like being drunk yet in a boat, anchoring to my spot, all the while pleasuring me.

Worked like a charm. Flames were leaping soon.. the good kind!

Yours in ever-expanding pleasure,
Dr. Patti

www.ExpandedLovemaking.com


Copyright 2006 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.