What Was That I Just Had?

Was that an Orgasm?

Many women ask me that question - how can they know when they have come?

I understand why. While it may be true that men and women have a smorgasbord of orgasmic sensations, a man can see when his cock is hard, and, when a man ejaculates, we assume he’s had an orgasm.

With women, there *might* be certain external signs, like breathing, sounds, and/or movement, but, often we can’t easily see a hard clit. And, if a woman doesn’t ejaculate, then, by what standard do we say she has come? All this of course begs the question, what really constitutes a woman’s orgasm?

According to Dr. Beverly Whipple, who’s researched women’s orgasms in her new book The Science of Orgasm, four different types of nerves signal the brain with ecstatic, orgasmic pleasure, originating from various parts of the body, such as the G-spot, the clitoris, and the cervix. (http://www.stuff.co.nz/stuff/timaruherald/4017648a19716.html). Whipple also says people can experience orgasm - an intense pleasurable response - from stimulation of many parts of their bodies, not just the genitals.

Coming can feel like a faint trickle of fun, or a kilo of dynamite continually going off, and everything in between. So, ladies, let’s drop trying to decide whether we’ve had an orgasm, and surrender to feeling all the pleasure that’s possible, from all those wonderful locations!

Next time, just for fun, try asking, “Did I just have an intensely pleasurable response?”

Yours.
Dr. Patti

Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.