Expanded Lovemaking

Embodying Stillness and Transmitting Essense Course, Aug. 8-9

2009-07-22T12:28:00.000-07:00

Dear Expanded Lovemakers,

Every now and then I feel blessed to pass along treasures I have experienced in my own journeys through life.

I recently took this course, and was deeply moved and inspired.

It gave me lots of practical ideas as well as ongoing felt sense experiences on how to be more “in touch” with my own inner landscape, a better toucher to others, and more “in the space, presence, and consciousness of love.”

Charles Ridley is a master teacher of Biodynamic Craniosacral Touch – yay for us, this course is open to everyone interested.

Embodying Stillness and the Art of Transmission through Touch:
A two day immersion into the embodiment of stillness and transmitting essence to another through touch.

Date: August 8-9, 9:30 - 4:00
Location: Rudramandir
Address: 830 Bancroft Way, Berkeley, CA

Phone: 415-342-1149

Cost: $120.00

Email: Charles@dynamicstillness.com

For more information go to this link:
www.dynamicstillness.com/non-practitioners-fr.htm

and
www.dynamicstillness.com

Warmly,

Dr. Patti
www.ExpandedLovemaking.com

Announcing "Expand Her Orgasm Tonight": The 21-Day Program for Partners

2009-07-15T13:40:00.000-07:00

Dear Expanded Lovemakers,

Giving and receiving orgasmic pleasure is nothing less than a profound lifelong path of learning, ecstasy, and bliss. And like all truly great paths, every step along the way is a complete experience - rich, orgasmic, and totally fulfilling.

I am thrilled to announce the release of my new program,

Expand Her Orgasm Tonight: The 21 Day Program for Partners!

I want people just like you, my readers, to give and receive boundless pleasure, no matter what your starting skill level. Are you ready to go to the next level of sexual mastery, and then way beyond?

I know that everyone can create way more orgasmic fulfillment than they are enjoying today. There is always more! These skills can be learned, and you can experience so much fun, love and bonding in the process of exploring together.

Why learn Expanded Orgasm? When all is said and done, why are we alive, if not to give and receive love, connection, intimacy, pleasure, insight, depth, relaxation, bliss, and more.

To get started, sign-up today for your free juicy "Expand Her Orgasm" mini-course, with no obligation! I'll also send you three free revealing and action-packed pleasure guides.

Just click on the banner on this page... or, go to my website and click on the banner that says “Mind Blowing Tantric Orgasms”.

Here's the link:

http://www.ExpandedLovemaking.com

This is not just a book but an entire step-by-step program where I share with you everything you need to know to take a woman to new heights of orgasmic ecstasy. It includes eBooks, videos, and audio components.
Follow the links I gave you above to find out more details.

While you’re there, don't forget your free mini-course! It’s a great way to get turned on to what this program is all about. You can always buy Expand Her Orgasm Tonight: The 21-Day Program for Partners, at any time, and still continue receiving the rest of the mini-course lessons.

Life really is full of orgasmic abundance!

Yours in ever-expanding pleasure,

Dr. Patti,

www.ExpandedLovemaking.com

Copyright 2009 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

Happy New You!

2008-01-01T16:51:00.000-08:00

Dear Expanded Lovemakers,

Have you heard the one where the Zen Monk goes to New York City and orders a hot dog from a vendor? He says, “Make me one with everything”. The vendor makes him a hot dog and takes his money. The monk expects his money back and when he doesn’t get it says, “Where’s my change?” “Ah”, says the vendor “Change comes from within.”

This joke reveals how we much expect the right thing to happen at the right place and time. The same event becomes funny when it’s the right thing at the wrong time.

Aren’t we all just chock-full of thousands of judgments about what’s right and wrong? What if we could just dump those judgments and enjoy every moment – especially during sex?

How cool would that be, since, when it comes to sex and pleasure, right and wrong events usually do not lead to harmless laughter, but often to more serious developments, like shutting down, embarrassment, trauma, hurt, and fear. Plus, we quit having fun with sex.

Have you got lots of judgments right this very nano-second about sexuality – yours, mine, and everyone else’s? Are you wondering, “Wow. I’d love to drop my judgments about sex. But how?”

AH!!! Here’s the true secret of enlightenment: It’s as close as a subtle shift away. (In other words, enlightened sex is not to be found in with some guru in the Himalayas…. It’s in a Hot Dog Vendor!) Okay… just kidding on this one.

Seriously, though. You don’t need to go to the Himalayas…. It’s all here, in your own, simple, amazing attitude about fun. Just keep asking yourself, would you rather be right, or have fun?

So the next time your lover slips on a banana peel – (say it’s *your* greased clit or cock), and their hand flies, on a fumble, up your nose… well, did you know that the nose is full of erectile tissue? If your nose knows this isn’t the place to be, solicit their slithering digits to slide slippery-slope down to your lips! Aha…. more erectile tissue! Now maybe lips are more to your liking (and licking)? Hmm, perhaps, now’s the time to become one with everything… wink, wink….starting with that friendly finger fondling your galactic smile!

Happy New You! To all my Dear Readers,

In Expanded Laughter,

Dr. Patti
www.ExpandedLovemaking.com

Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

Mantak Chia Opens Our Mind/Body Consiousness

2007-11-29T13:40:00.000-08:00

Hi, this is Dr. Patti Taylor of www.ExpandedLovemaking.com, and I am so thrilled to have this interview with Mantak Chia. Mantak Chia is a fixture in our culture, but in a slightly "small" way relatively to his total message. He is the one who for years has been telling men, to withhold ejaculation, and circulate that energy (and that semen!) up through the body instead! You can (and should) circulate precious this orgasmic energy up through your body, mind, heart and spirit, rather than "spend it" by letting it leave your body.

Of course he says a lot more than that. In fact, he has an entire cosmology or how to live an orgasmic and loving life.

It’s so typically “Western”-consciousness that we equate him with this one concept on of withholding semen, when what he talks about is an entire way of living, eating, thinking, and breathing, (for both men and women) … and, of course, when he includes making love and generating orgasmic energy as a big part of his overall conversation.

Join us as he talks about this, and so much more, on this podcast.

Yes…it’s about so much more than whether you ejaculate (as a man) or not.

So… become global. Open your mind and hear what this brilliant master has to say.

Oh, and check out some of his DVD’s while you are at it… they are wonderful. I especially love the ones on Sexual Alchemy, though, I admit, I haven’t seen them all yet! We list them on our episode page for Mantak Chia's show. Or, go to www.PacificTao.com.

Once you’ve listened to him, then see what works for you in your body.

Overall, I am sure you will feel totally enriched for having heard this brilliant man.

Listen Here:
http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/expanded-lovemaking/episode028-mantak-chia-cultivating-energy.html

Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

Reclaim those Sweet, Loving Feelings Again…

2007-11-13T09:03:00.000-08:00

How? Through what? Compassionate Nonviolent Communication?

Hi, I’m Dr. Patti Taylor of ExpandedLovemaking.com, and most people tell me this: I thought you just slammed the door or made rude remarks when you wanted to get your point across! Then you annoyed people and started new relationships. (Put this all in reverse to describe what people do to you.)

This may sound funny…. If it weren’t so true. Then of course it’s tragic.

And it’s more heart-breaking when you realize the consequences of poor communication around intimate communication: hurt feelings, that lead to feeling traumatized, shut down, unattractive, and more.

Wouldn’t you like to reverse this trend? Is it possible?

Wouldn’t you like to feel loved, met, understood, and as a result, more open, warm, and sexy?

Imagine the hot, loving, or deeply caring sex you used to have when you felt you were really, truly, connecting. You can feel that way again in a much shorter time possible than you ever imagined!

Find out how in our show on Compassionate Communication with Lori Grace Star and Scott Catamas.

Listen Here: http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/expanded-lovemaking/episode025-lori-grace-star-scott-catamas-compassionate-communication.html

Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

Can You Come Just Thinking About It?

2007-10-29T12:48:00.000-07:00

Hi, I am Dr. Patti Taylor of www.Expandedlovemaking.com.

I grew up with mottos like, “What you see is what you get”. “Seeing is believing”. “If you can’t feel it, it isn’t real”.

This kind of thinking means that an orgasm we are having in our head alone isn’t really happening to us, even if it happens to be feeling really amazingly delicious!

This type of rationale goes on a fender-bender when thousands of people start reporting “inner-mind/body” orgasms (which I guess are the opposite of out-of-body experiences, you might say!).

Have you had one, or several? If so, would you be willing to share what yours was like? I shared my experience on this week’s podcast with Dr. Barry Komisaruk, and I’ll give the link below.

You can do so here, in our comments section. We’d love to hear.

Or, if you’re feeling really virtuous, perhaps you’d like to contribute to making the world a better place? Dr. Barry is doing research to help spine-injured patients find new ways to experience orgasm.

He is seeking volunteers who can “think off” and are willing to come to New York to participate in his research study. You can write to him for further information at this address: brk@psychology.rutgers.edu.

What a good cause, more pleasure for people with a serious injury.

Wishing everyone more pleasure. I know you’ll get lots of ideas about how to have more in this fabulous podcast!

http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/expanded-lovemaking/episode023-barry-komisaruk-pleasurable-orgasmic-pathways.html

Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

New Events, 10/20 and 10/28

2007-10-12T12:08:00.000-07:00

As you may have noticed I am offering more these days. Why? We teach what we need to learn, I always say. So what is there to learn about making love, and using this information to go into expanded orgasmic states, you might ask of me, since I probably do it more than almost anyone I know?

Everything. It’s not about what is being taught. It’s about being in the experience. Each gathering is like a sacred puja, or ceremony, where we use our collective energies to raise one another, and ourselves, and our awareness, in order to expand our bliss and bliss consciousness to places we never dreamed possible. And that is always an infinite journey.

So here is what is planned:

AH: Awakening Hearts: Saturday October 20th. 7pm to 10pm. In San Franscisco.
Last month's gathering was REALLY fun and connective!
So, come join a group of juicy cultural creatives, as we awaken our capacity to feel more joy, aliveness, and bliss!

For more info click on link: www.healingwords.org/ah.htm

Another evening: Sun., October 28th, 7 -10 pm in Corte Madera: Expanded Tantric Lovemaking, with optional potluck beforehand at 6 pm:
Here I am share some of the information that I have been presenting in New York, and introduce you to what I will be teaching in my upcoming playshops. You’ll learn more about how to expand your sensual life with newly refined practices derived from the Kashmiri Shaivist Tantra traditions. For more info click here:

http://www.celebrationsoflove.com/e-expandedtantriclovemaking.html

What are people are saying about Ah! Awakening Hearts?

*Patti and Don created a delightful, heartfelt space that was very safe and felt like home.
*The connecting exercises sparked my intuition and put me in touch with the moment.
*The activities of the evening helped me to explore the delicate balance of honoring boundaries and taking risks. I found that asking permission allowed more intimacy.
*Thank you for creating such a safe space to me to explore Sacred
Intimacy with my self and others. t reminded me that the essence of Tantra is spiritual awakening.
*It was more than I expected. I left the event with a feeling of deep peace and fullness in my Heart.

Finally, check out my podcasts! We have some great ones coming up, including Mantak Chia, Lori Grace and Scott Catamas, and Stan Grof. Visit my website, under Podcasts, to learn more about how to download right into Itunes.
Or, go to http://personallifemedia.com/podcasts/expanded-lovemaking/expanded-lovemaking-show.html
Yours in ever-expanding bliss,
Patti

Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

Have You Heard Living Dialogues This Week?

2007-10-05T17:40:00.001-07:00

Hi, this is Dr. Patti Taylor of www.ExpandedLovemaking.com, and I want to get on my soapbox for a minute, okay?

I just love Living Dialogs! It’s a podcast on the Personal Life Media Network. I literally await each week’s show with true curiosity. What has Duncan Campbell created for us this week?

Every podcast has a way of changing my life. They are that good! But recently, Joseph Chilton Pearce has been on for three whole shows, talking about culture, violence, children, the language of the heart, how it connects to the brain, and the biology of transcendence.

What do I love? Okay, it’s academic in parts. But Pearce lays it all out:
We are universally divine, but with cultural overlays, are “programmed” to forget this, and to embrace violence… and of course, this will show up in our lovemaking as well as in our children and all other aspects of our society.

This information tracks perfectly with what I teach — and believe — about learning to become a better lover. Underneath it all, we are have the potential to become precious, fabulous lovers, just waiting for a chance to express ourselves and learn how to love even more.

Pearce’s explanations about what we can do about our cultural conditioning… not what you may think… are refreshing and inspiring. And mind-opening.

Wow. Do I love this show. And this week was just another in a string of hits. Thanks, Duncan.

This show is in three parts…. lucky us! So I am just giving the link to his page on Personal Life Media.

And, oh yes, thank you to Personal Life Media, who makes ALL of this content get out to us Lovemakers, who happen to be parents, children ourselves, and, of course, divine beings underneath the programming. Thank you, PLM!

Listen to Living Dialogs Here:
http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/living-dialogues/living-dialogues-show.html

Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

Date Change from 10/6 to 10/28 and an Invitation

2007-10-02T10:45:00.000-07:00

Dear Expanded Lovemakers:

After some deliberation, we decided to reschedule our class at Celebrations of Love from from October 6 to Sunday, October 28.

There is a conflict with a dance event that was turned into a fundraiser for a very special person in the COL community. To support that cause we felt the best thing to do is to reschedule our event to another night.

I look forward to seeing you on the 28th!!

In other news, I just got back from the the Podcast and New Media Expo full of lots of new ideas, so hold on as I upgrade and modernize my site and the way I do things around here ... even my email! All for your benefit, of course! The customer... ahem... audience... ahem....ahem... even client... is now the "participant"! I love this!

So, please, let me know your thoughts about what you'd like to hear more of, what you don't understand about my site, or even, just drop me a line and introduce yourselves and let me know what you love learning (or love to learn) about making love!

And I'll be doing way more to make this easier for you because I am really interested and curious, as well as grateful for your participation.

Yours, in ever-expanding love,

Patti (aka Dr. Patti Taylor)

www.ExpandedLovemaking.com -Check out my You Tube Videos on my site

http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/expanded-lovemaking/expanded-lovemaking-show.html
for computer access to my podcast... I now have 21 shows! including Daniel Odier, Margot Anand, Ian Kerner, Mantak Chia (coming soon) and many more amazing guests!

Or just go right into Itunes and search for "Expanded Lovemaking" ... we're currently the top-rated show in our network -- we got approximately 40,000 downloads last month, after 6 months "on the e-waves", which is amazing.

http://expandedlovemaking.blogspot.com/ for my blog... which you can sign up to... (look in the bottom right hand corner where it says, "Subscribe in a reader"). It will come right to your email and comes out much more frequently than this e-zine. We discuss events, shows, and hot juicy stuff.

PS Please... Can you think of friends that would enjoy what we're doing? If so, would you be wiling to pass the word along about what we're up to?

Invite them to take one small step, like to check out one of my 21 podcasts, one that's really touched you personally, perhaps, or sign up to my events list... we have so many exciting new show, events, and articles planned! Even forwarding this email would be great.

There is no substitute for word of mouth. If you are enjoying what I am doing, then, your words are worth thousands of dollars to me!!! Millions, even. I'd love to see this show reach 100,000 downloads, which is where it will start being really commercially viable. Your support would mean a lot.

PSS: Almost all the guests on my audio podcast say that if more people practiced Expanded Lovemaking the world would be a better place in so many ways. Those of you who listen know of the many beautiful ways they've mentioned.

So... why do you listen? And, do you think the consciousness of the planet would shift if there were way more Expanded Lovemakers out there making love all over the planet?

Thanks in advance! Xoxoxoxoxo to all.

Share in an Intimate Counseling Session

2007-09-26T10:57:00.000-07:00

This week is very special because I am giving two students very explicit advice on how to better their practice of Expanded “O”.

We cover:
1) What can men and especially women do to “settle into” a sensual pleasuring date when they feel that nervous energy… even when they really want to have that sexy, delicious connection with their partner?
2) How can men give women that sense of security, grounding, and presence, and communicate all this through their touch, while giving them contact?
3) What specific secrets can a man discover to make his stroking be even more masterful?
4) How can couples practice these arts, without confusing between “practice” and “lovemaking”
5) How can a woman know if she’s experiencing female amrita (emissions), and, what’s a good way to give one to a woman?

So tune into this show if you want to listen in on a free private session with me! We do go into detail, detail, and more detail!

Also, this would be a great time to subscribe in Itunes. And, if you love the show, please consider giving it it a five star review. That helps I-tunes notice and publicize it! And that helps tremendously in supporting our show to get more visibility.

If you need instructions on how to download the podcast, go to my website, www.ExpandedLovemaking,com, under Podcasts, for more detailed instructions.

Here's the link:

http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/expanded-lovemaking/episode021-heather-and-robert-feeling-more-pleasure-part-2.html

Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

Can We Re-Ignite Passion in a Marriage?

2007-09-23T09:50:00.000-07:00

Can We Re-Ignite Passion in a Marriage?

September 23, 2007 at 9:33 am · Filed under Uncategorized · Edit

Hi, this is Dr. Patti Taylor of ExpandedLovemaking.com.

Heather and Robert’s interview moved me deeply. I am so glad to release it, because it is such a message of inspiration for all of us.

So many marriages are not making it to the long-term any more. You have less than a fifty-fifty chance of staying married 25 years.

Lack of a gratifying sex life is often a major reason. So guess what turns things around?

Heather and Robert, in a long-term marriage, bravely share with us their journey, start from a stale-mated sex life a year ago. Misunderstandings abound, while feelings are brittle and easily hurt.

Both of them attempt to reclaim their passion. Advances comes haltingly, but, with the love and determination, the payoffs come through, one after another.

It’s all in the details in this vulnerable, yet, detail-filled, and juicy narrative!

In the end… well, you’ll have to experience for yourself the joy we share with Heather and Robert in their fun and newly-minted marriage.

I feel so hopeful and happy with this interview. I see this so often: that becoming orgasmic brings marriages back to life, love, trust, harmony, and joy. And, oh yes, Passion!

Listen Here:
http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/expanded-lovemaking/episode020-heather-and-robert-reclaiming-sex-and-passion-part-1.html
Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

AH! Awakening Hearts,Sat, 9/22

2007-09-12T11:50:00.000-07:00

Dear Local SF Bay Area Expanded Lovemakers, and Astral Travelers,

Last month, our first time, was REALLY fun and connective! I’d
say the group was attractive, juicy, open-hearted, playful, and
also, had a spiritual core that came out, too. WOW! Lots of us
our coming back to form the seeds of community.
So…Come join a group of juicy cultural creatives as we awaken
our capacity to feel more joy, aliveness, and bliss!

Exercises come from chi gung and tantra to open the energy
and see into another in the moment.

Fun, and a great way to go beyond the typical “singles scene”.

While last time most everyone was single, we are open to
everyone, beyond labels of single, couple, etc. Often, the way
you really meet people is when you are just have fun being YOURSELF!

A great way to find your tribe, meet new friends and make
romantic connections while contributing to global awakening.

This event is held at the Balboa Institute of Religious Science.
It’s pretty easy commute from lots of different places and
parking’s pretty reasonable.

Light refreshments, music, and socializing at the end.
3255 Balboa St. San Francisco, CA 94921

7 pm to 10 pm

$20 till a week in advance, then $25 suggested price, at the
door. For more info, check out www.ExpandedLovemaking.com or
HealingWords.org

Call Don at 415-724-7667 or email him at dpdrake01@yahoo.com for
more information on registering in advance.

Come join us and PLAY!

Yours as always, in ever-expanding bliss,
Patti
www.ExpandedLovemaking.com

And…if you can’t make it… well, tune into our really cool
new and exciting podcasts!Listen Here:

http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/expanded-lovemaking/expanded-lovemaking-show.html

Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

Hint, Hint Anyone?

2007-08-25T10:55:00.000-07:00

Hi it’s me, Dr. Patti of ExpandedLovemaking.com.

Are you the shy type? Ever want your lover to read your mind about all the fun things you want? Ever wish you were doing some of the fun things we talk about on the Expanded Lovemaking show?

Or, are you the outspoken type? And your partners are the shy ones? Etc.. Etc..

We’re not all Paris Hilton, you know. We can use some reminding and encouragement now and then. And lately, even she seems to flip-flip between being a naughty girl and a nice girl.

Kinda cool, actually… and, just like what I tend to do, too. One day I’m totally out there, and the next, I’m Ms. Perfect. (Well… okay, I’m stretching it jussstttt a little here, but not entirely!)

Well, guess what I found, googling this morning? Mugs, thongs, caps, sweatshirts, notebooks, and more, with the Expanded Lovemaking Logo on them.

What better way to announce to the world that you’re a fan of The Expanded Lovemaking Show on wwww.PersonalLifeMedia.com, and… (hint, hint, wink, wink) that others *might* enjoy listening, too!

Guess what? I’m getting something myself. Maybe two things, a thong and a cap. One for my outspoken side and one for my shy side, too!

Here's the link: http://www.cafepress.com/personallife/3065884

You can see the Logo, and the products, there. I think they're fun!
Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

Orgamsic Meditation, Clitoral Communion, and One Taste to Taste It All!

2007-08-17T10:27:00.001-07:00

August 17, 2007 at 10:10 am · Filed under Uncategorized

Dr. Patti Taylor of ExpandedLovemaking.com interviews Nicole Daedone, on this exciting show on Orgasmic Meditation: Clitoral Communion for Shared Pleasure, Sensation, and Awareness.

Have you ever wondered what it would be like to drop everything, live in an urban retreat center (or any retreat center for that matter?) where you can sample enlightening pleasures of every type imaginable?

Today those pleasures are “sensibly”, sensually, updated to include mind, health, body, heart, and spirit at the One Taste Urban Retreat Center, based in San Francisco, with branches in New York City and elsewhere.

Nicole Daedone, the founder, is a spectacularly fascinating woman: complex, brave, brilliant, and – oh yes - lovable too! The mind, the health, and spirit, are covered by visiting guest lecturers, as well as One Taste’s own local staff and providers.

To keep us sensibly sensual, you’ll learn special information in this podcast about One Taste’s crown jewel, Orgasmic Meditation, where two people share clitoral communion through the giving of raw sensual pleasure to a woman’s clitoris. Both people tap into the sensation and turn on to a myriad set up potentialities for awakening.

Learn more about this exciting, dynamic community, its classes, and its dynamic, lovable founder, all on this week’s podcast, (which is also a great party and celebration of female fun and friendship!)

You’ll laugh as well as learn as you open your mind, heart, spirit, and body to the possibilities that await you!

Listen Here:
http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/expanded-lovemaking/episode017-nicole-daedone-orgasmic-meditation.html

Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

Be the Shining Star, with Sexy Photos

2007-08-08T08:09:00.000-07:00

Flirt, Tease, and Arouse, In and Out Of the Bedroom: Dr. Patti talks to Lucas Hopkins, Gifted Photographer and Master Creator of Passionate Delights

Hi, I’m Dr. Patti Taylor, of ExpandedLovemaking.com, and I have a real question for you: How would you like to be a *Shining Star* tonight?

Whether you’re the lovely subject, or the hero-photographer, many women fantasize about being photographed by a lover (or a savvy stranger) who knows how to bring out their inner turn-on, whether they are in their animal moods, or their sweet, tender, deep sensual self. Or … you name it? Maybe several sides want to emerge!

As the photographer, you get to set the stage and capture all this! In this show you will be inspired to both receive and/or take intimate photos. And, also, to tease, flirt, arouse, and turn your partner on!

And, perhaps you’ll learn a little more about what goes on in someone else’s art studio while you’re having your busy day?

And perhaps you’ll fantasize about changing careers? You might after hearing this podcast!

You’ll definitely learn some fabulous tips on sensuality, flirting, arousing, and sex, and hear a really fun show!

Check out the show and see for yourself what turns you on. Happy Listening!

And, BE SURE TO VIEW LUCAS’S INCREDIBLE PHOTOS at as a part of this experience.
www.shadowdancerphotography.com

Listen to the show here:
http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/expanded-lovemaking/episode016-lucas-hopkins-master-creator-of-passionate-delights.html

Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

Win a Free Copy of "She Comes First"!

2007-07-31T11:04:00.000-07:00

Arouse and Thrill Her through Foreplay, Coreplay, and Moreplay: Dr. Patti Talks to Ian Kerner, Celebrated Sex Therapist

Hi, I am Dr. Patti Taylor, of Expanded Lovemaking.com. On this week’s Expanded Lovemaking show, hear Dr. Ian Kerner, celebrated sex therapist, and best-selling author of She Comes First, discuss how to create juicier sexual connections.

Plus, I am having a special contest for this show: you can win a copy of She Comes First simply by posting a blog entry that I like. (Hint: make it cool, revealing, and/or interesting, and a response to what Ian is saying).

I will pick my 10 favorite blog entries, and by the start of next month, September 1, the writers of my 10 favorite posts will be selected to receive their very own copies. Here are some possible blog post topics:

What have you found are the different mental stimuli women truly crave most?

Do you like fantasies? How do you add them in to your bedroom scenarios?

Do you and your partners celebrate oral sex, and is this something you’d like more of in your relationship?

Do you have recommendations when you use your tongue, gums, hands, fingers, minds, eyes, and even vocal cords, and specific strokes during oral pleasuring?

Could less stimulation on your lover’s pussy ever feel better than more?

Or, make up your own post – it’s open season on this contest, as long as you are tasteful enough for me to print what you say!

Listen to Ian Kerner’s Show here:
http://personallifemedia.com/podcasts/expanded-lovemaking/episode015-ian-kerner-foreplay-coreplay-moreplay.html

Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

A Taste of Sex: Listen, Love, and Vote for Them!!!

2007-07-31T09:29:00.000-07:00

Hi, I’m Dr. Patti Taylor of Expanded Lovemaking.com. Have you checked out the A TASTE OF SEX Series here on our very own PersonalLifeMedia.com network? If you like the Expanded Lovemaking Show you just might like this show as well.

Now, THEY ARE UP FOR A PODCAST AWARD, and it would be so cool if they won one! It’s a major, prestigious award. You can vote every day until Aug. 15! You’ll vote here: http://podcastawards.com/ and it’s a one-click easy process.

Their shows represent freedom of speech, and a celebration of life. In this world of boring mainstream media, I count my blessings when I can get access to unique voices, every single time I can. I have met so many wonderful friends, just from listening to A TASTE OF SEX.

I have tuned in, and I have come to know them. As members of a fascinating sex-positive community, they’ve shared struggles and successes and hot juicy sexual encounters, all via their raw, open-hearted podcasts. And, as you might imagine, as I come to know people, I come to love and understanding, too.

They have an erotic poetry and prose reading and a community “tell-all”, and in both shows they model what it’s like to bare your soul to sensuality, sexuality, consciousnesses, love, and life, in a multitude of voices and exquisite moments of life, both mundane and amazing.

In the Visiting Guest Series, I learn about other leaders and teachers. They have dreams, and to hear them and what makes them tick, inspires me to be the far-out crazy broad I am, whether I like or not! (I do, I do…, most of the time.) Company is always nice, though, don’t you think?

Because of A TASTE OF SEX, I have more love and inspiration in my life… yes, because of this homespun, exotic, erotic, totally fun programming.

So check out their shows… and if you are so moved, just get it: Your vote REALLY counts! Go to www.PersonalLifeMedia.com and then, A TASTE OF SEX. Enjoy!

Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

Sexy Prostate Massage for Men

2007-07-21T08:19:00.000-07:00

Prostate Massage: a Fun and Sexy Path to Pleasure: Dr. Patti Talks to Erika Thost, M.D., Founder of SexyProstate.com

Why should women be the only ones having delicious, mind-opening, body-warming, heart-tingling prostate massages? So many men would love to have one, and either don’t know they exist, don’t know how to ask for one, or, don’t know that their girlfriend just might be willing… or be totally delighted… to give them one.

Whether you are new to this subject of male prostate massage, also known as the “male g-sot”, or are just looking for a rollicking-good-fun discussion between Doctors Erika and Patti, (which alone is worth listening in for), stop on by and learn how you might expand your range of potential pleasures!

Check out learning way more about this very pleasurable gift to men — and to the givers of this delight as well! –Yours, Dr. Patti Taylor, of ExpandedLovemaking.com

Listen Here: www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/expanded-lovemaking/episode014-erika-thost-prostate-massage.html

Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

More Sexy Talk!

2007-07-12T09:51:00.000-07:00

How good can it get? (Try me, try me…)

Seriously, first I post this below, and then, I discover, one of our *very* talented co-hosts, Dr. Lori Buckley, did a show on “Sexy Talk” last week.

How cool is that?

Click here to listen: http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/minds-of-men/episode011-mark-phelan-sexy-talk.html

Dr. Lori Buckley and friend, Mark Phelan address the topic of sexy talk and the power of words. They discuss text sex, and give some tips on how to use words to enhance your sex life.

Emjoy!

Dr. Patti Taylor,
www.ExpandedLovemaking.com

Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

Ready for an Adventure?

2007-07-12T09:39:00.000-07:00

When’s the last time you turned took off your shoes, locked the door, and took an hour to sink into a fabulous travelogue that took you places you’ve always wanted to go? Even if you can’t remember, I’m guessing that it’s something you’d like to do, basically, any day of the week.

Now, when’s the last time you took the phone off the hook, lit some candles, put on your favorite music, and took the time to learn all about your own body? (Not to mention your partner’s body on some other day!)

If this is something you’d like to do, and haven’t, it may be simply that you don’t know how. Sheri Winston will show and encourage! She’s a registered nurse, a sexual educator and counselor—in her own terms, a WomanCraft teacher and a “pelvic priestess”. Plus, she’s warm and fun to listen to!

Anton Diaz draws her out in this amazing show which inspired me deeply.

Impressed by Sheri’s presence on the show, I went to her website, www.sheriwinston.com, where I found a virtual motherlode of articles that will help guide anyone wanting to learn more about the maps to orgasmic pleasure: maps of the clitoris, stages of female arousal , “puffing and pumping the bulbs”, and SO MUCH more.

There are over 35 articles, and links to other websites as well! You’ll want to bookmark this page.

This show is a total treasure. You and your partner will delight in hearing Anton and Sheri “dance together” as they encourage and inspire all of us!

Dr. Patti Taylor,
www.ExpandedLovemaking.com

Listen Here to “Wholistic Sexuality” with Anton and Sheri:
http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/expanded-lovemaking/episode013-sheri-winston-wholistic-sexuality.html

Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

Oooh, Yes, Talk to Me, Baby

2007-07-09T16:55:00.000-07:00

There’s so much I want to cover this week with my clients, some of whom have come hundreds or even thousands of miles to see me. Today, I want to talk about talking. Talking is not a topic in itself, any more than breathing or eating. Talking is simply something that must occur. It is the lubricant of the breakthrough process itself.

For the longest time, I never said a word during sex. Sometimes it was because I didn’t know what to say; other times, I didn’t want to spoil the moment, or hurt my partner’s feelings. Even when my partner would repeatedly encourage me to talk, I would be grateful—yet, I could not, I would not, trust that he was sincere.

“Sure”, I thought, “You think you want to hear what I am saying. But you don’t, not really. If you did, you’d hear an ongoing stream of judgments, complaints, and comparisons, mixed in with general confusion, self-focus, and fear. Trust me….

I am still remembering, quite silently to myself, the old days, and those thoughts: You really don’t want to know. Maybe, maybe, if I knew what to say, or ask for, I would, but I don’t.

And yet, for all my inner dialog, I would also add, still silently, “but please, please, don’t give up asking, I want you to care, I want you to know, I want one day to figure out how to escape from this prison of silence. It’s just that right now, I have no idea how to leave.

Please don’t stop asking me what I want! Who knows, maybe one day, I’ll really figure it out.”

So, for all you strong, silent types out there, here’s my request: learn how to be the strong, communicative type for the one you love. Learn to ask her (or him) questions!

We shy, don’t-know-quite-how-to-ask-for-all-the-delicious-pleasures-we-are-craving, may just be craving the day that you do, so that we can learn to figure out to tell you.

I know I did, and so have lots of others. Learning how to ask, and answer questions, verbally, coupled with some “show and tell”, was a key part of the breakthrough process for me and many of the couples that we work with.

Yours,
Dr. Patti Taylor

www.ExpandedLovemaking.com

Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

Connect Fri Eve July 6 in San Fransciso

2007-07-03T13:18:00.000-07:00

Dear Expanded Lovemakers,

Are you busy this Friday night, July 6? Do you live in or around San Francisco Bay Area?

I'm inviting you to a fun, educational, and experiential event.

Friday, July 6, 2007
7:45 pm to 10:00 pm, prompt starting time
Downtown San Francisco - 735 Montgomery (at Jackson)
Cost is $15 per person at door.

Connect with current friends and MEET wonderful new ones.

And while you're at it...Learn skills to develop your sensual life with techniques and practices derived from the Kashmiri Shaivist Tantra traditions.

OK, Here's the story: For a long time, I've had a dream that people could find a venue in which to connect with one another, without expectations, head trips, or a "meat-market" atmosphere. I've always been slightly jealous that singles bars sprout up on almost every corner. I always wondered, where do other people go to make friends and meet new people?

What if you don't drink? Or, what if you are not single, or, what if you are simply looking to have a wonderful connection but not quite ready to meet someone wanting to "begin a relationship"? Singles bars just don't seem to be the optimal atmosphere for heart-full connection, where people meet just as they are, seeing deeply into one another, in the moment.

Wouldn't it be fun to be able to do this, learn new skills about how to learn hot, yummy new skills, connect, make new friends, and, do all this without any expectations?

My last point: I just came back from New York City where we had a phenomenally fun time! What I'm finding, every time I present, is that people love integrating the Kashmiri Shaivist Tantric principles that underlie the Expanded Lovemaking that I teach. It adds so much depth to what we are practicing, and I promise to keep adding more!

Stay tuned, and please, if at all possible join us, everyone: singles, couples, "undecideds", and those who defy all labels: We want you!

Love, In ever-expanding bliss.

Patti

Dr. Patti Taylor

http://www.expandedlovemaking.com/

Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

Will You Join Us on the Path of Pleasure?

2007-06-27T17:24:00.000-07:00

Join me for some pleasure? I promise I’ll respect you in the morning if you do. And, we might just have a phenomenally good time, too!

I say this because the path of pleasure is a confrontive one sometimes. In our society, we are conditioned to choose pain over pleasure.

Fortunately, lots of people still want to learn how to have pleasure!

I just got back from New York City where I talked over a period of five days on the subjects of Kashmiri Shaivist Tantra, Expanded Orgasm, pleasure, consciousness, and bliss.

The response was incredible. Why? I believe men and women are hungry to go deep in their practice for pleasure. And, because, the path of pleasure is profound.

At my conference, other speakers spoke of using sex and Tantra as a way to heal pain. While I believe these speakers will always have the following, I could never teach such information. I have been in a lot of pain myself. And I have found that going into pain, for me, as a path, has always lead to more pain.

The only way to experience pleasure, and then more pleasure, is to toggle - that is, discreetly switch - my mindset out of pain, and then into some feeling of joy and gratitude. That is my beginning foundation to a path of pleasure.

(And yes, you can learn how to do this!) I teach this and so do others, many of whom come on this show.

The path of pleasure leads to bliss in our bodies and ecstasy in our spirits.

Check out this week’s interview with Alicia Bayer and Erwan Davon for juice, inspiration and practical wisdom: Turning On! with Sex, Love, and Attention.

They share what us their unique perspective on Sex, Pleasure, and Turn-on as a path to live into. You will feel the vibration of ecstasy the minute you turn on this show. And, you will definitely be inspired to join those of us who choose the path of pleasure. Thank you, Alicia and Erwan! for your inspiring show.

http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/expanded-lovemaking/episode012-erwan-and-alicia-pleasure-course.html

Yours, Dr. Patti Taylor
www.ExpandedLovemaking.com

Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

Daniel Odier, Kashmiri Shaivist Tantric Master

2007-06-16T09:39:00.000-07:00

Daniel Odier, a renowned Kashmiri Shaivist Tantric master, speaks this week, eloquently, directly, movingly about topics ranging from how to integrate the male and female within ourselves, to how to live a Tantric life -- a blissful one -- in today's fast-paced world.

I have listened to this interview four or five times already, and each time I hear something new. Yesterday, when I heard it, I was contemplating the part where he talked about how each of us needs to integrate the male and female within ourselves.

I realize how much time I spend trying to fulfill my role as a woman. There's nothing wrong with this, but, in doing so, I don't allow myself a full expression of the potential of my being.

Can I tap into the desire to create more balance in my life, and my energy, so that I can have a balance in male and female energies inside myself? Where I get too feminine, can I can look to see where qualities of strength and clarity can bring me into a gorgeous kind of “felt sense” of ecstatic balance?

And, can I do this without falling into any judgment of myself in any way? Loving myself in all my expressions of myself ?

Every time I hear this interview I am deeply, deeply inspired. Words don't fully express my gratitude that Daniel Odier shared his wisdom on my show -- but let me try: thank you Daniel! I invite everyone all to listen with all of their heart, mind, body, and spirit to this deep and inspiring sharing of wisdom.

Daniel Odier, A Tantric Path to Embodied Bliss:

http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/expanded-lovemaking/expanded-lovemaking-show.html

Dr. Patti Taylor,
www.ExpandedLovemaking.com
Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

Video: Tantra, Turn-on and Freedom

2007-06-11T08:12:00.001-07:00

Here's Dr. Patti (www.ExpandedLovemaking.com) transmitting on Tantra in the tradition of Kashmiri Shaivism, a path of ultimate freedom and turn-on. From a workshop at Sexy Spirits (www.SexySpirits.com) in New York City. Patti reads from a classic text (Yoga of Delight, Wonder, and Astonishment) and leads a group experience.

Video: Saving the Date with Dr. Patti Taylor

2007-06-02T22:25:00.001-07:00

From a presentation at Sexy Spirits in New York City - I share a story about how Kashmiri Shaivism expanded a date with my partner from ho-hum to way over the edge - in fact way over many edges!

Masterful, Delightful, Extended Clitoral Stimulation

2007-06-01T15:20:00.000-07:00

Do check out my latest podcast with Drs. Steve and Vera Bodansky: Experiencing Quantum Leaps in Pleasure with Extended Massive Orgasms.

Drs. Steve and Vera Bodanksy, the authors of Extended Massive Orgasm, are Doctors of Sensuality and masters of what they teach. Very few us of will ever meet Steve and Vera in person; it’s just a “law of numbers” thing. Too few of them, too many of us. This is one of those times when I am so thankful for Internet podcasting.

There is no substitute imaginable for hearing Steve and Vera share personally about the art of giving a woman exquisite pleasure via clitoral stimulation, and, now, with podcasting, you can practically sit across from them as they go point by point over what it takes to GIVE and RECEIVE exquisite genital pleasure. (You can use many of these same techniques on a man’s cock, too.)

So here’s the point… these two people deliver the information in a way that alternates between being intimate, informative, tender, funny, and profound. I say, more, more, more of this kind of information! And, go listen for yourself… this is great stuff!

Kudos to Steve and Vera, who open their teachings – and themselves – to us so generously. The information is great and I feel turned on, wanting to go home and DO it – which makes it even twice as good! So, do check out Drs. Steve and Vera Bodansky: Experiencing Quantum Leaps in Pleasure with Extended Massive Orgasms.

http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/expanded-lovemaking/episode009-steve-vera-extended-massive-orgasm.html

Yours, Dr. Patti

www.ExpandedLovemaking.com

Tues, May 29, 7:45 pm San Fran. Event

2007-05-24T11:53:00.000-07:00

Next Tuesday, May 29, I'm inviting all of you who live anywhere in or around the Bay Area of San Francisco to come join me at the One Taste Urban Retreat Center for an evening of Expanded Lovemaking:

In this evening of “Expanded Rapture”, you will enter the world of expanded relating, in order to experience: * Shifting into your “expanded lover” in just moments – and attracting your partner to go there with you. * Giving and receiving a present, orgasmic touch, from the first moment of contact, for as long as the two of you connect. Light touching of faces, hands, and hugging.

Singles or couples are welcome, with optional partner switching for the experiential portion.

7:45pm - 9:45pm $15.

Here is the link for finding out further information; http://www.onetastesf.com/desc.php?id=21.

I hope to see as many of us there as we can, for having fun, building energy and sharing love!

~~~Patti

How to Give a Great G-Spot Orgasm, with Dr. G

2007-05-17T09:49:00.000-07:00

What a fun and informative show! I’ve never met a woman who’s had ONE great G-spot orgasm that didn’t want a hundred of them. This show tells you all about how to have them, and even how they can lead to true female empowerment.

G-spots are much bigger than a woman’s clitoris. When you keep your sweetie's clitoral area aroused, her G-spot grows in its ability to feel sensation. So, ready for a mini-lesson?

Keep ongoing stimulation on your lover's clit with one hand.

With your lower hand, tease her vaginal lips. Outer vaginal lips are incredibly sensitive to touch. Feather them with delicate contact.

As she gets more aroused, get some lube. With permission, gently go inside to the first knuckle. Switch now more to pressure sensations. Swing your fingers, one or two of them, against her upper vaginal wall, from side to side. She’ll climb higher in turn-on and feeling.

Go deeper now. When you get to her G-spot, a spongey-feeling area, find just that perfect hook with your finger(s), under her pelvic bone, and rhythmically signal her to “come hither”.

In my interview with Dr. Gary Schubach, we go into much further detail about just what to do to drive your woman wild with G-pleasure – (she may even wind up “squirting”, or female ejaculating).

So listen, take notes, and, most importantly, line up a hot date for some practice!

http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/expanded-lovemaking/episode007-gary-schubach-squirting-female-ejaculations.html

Or visit me at I-tunes, under Personal Life Media first (as a network publisher), and then look for this show, under the Expanded Lovemaking Show.

Yours, Dr. Patti Taylor
www.ExpandedLovemaking.com

Live: Sun. Night 5/13 Internet Broadcast

2007-05-11T20:14:00.000-07:00

Dear Expanded Lovemakers,

Join us this Sunday evening, as Alan Steinfeld of New Realities Events interviews me on the subjects of Kashmiri Shaivist Tantra, its profound relationship to Expanded Orgasm, my unusual past, and my present passions…

And hey – if you aren’t sure what Kashmiri Shaivist Tantra is… well… all the more reason to tune in Sunday evening. This information rocks! Gift yourself with discovering more about this form of Tantra, which deepens your sensual practice, and seeds you with principles that take you to ever higher levels of lovemaking mastery.

www.bbsradio.com Go to LATE NIGHT: LIVE TALK RADIO

The Program is New Realities
6:30pm California time
9:30pm NY Time

Alternate address access: http://www.bbsradio.com/bbs_late_night.php

Speaking of “rocks”, this past weekend I had a rollicking good time with 80 or so wildly enthusiastic tantricas, dakas, and dakinis as I presented Sweetrocking and its application to entering transcendent states, at the Sacred Sexuality Conference in Sedona, Arizona.

‘Til Sunday nite, and hoping you can join us,

Yours, in Ever-Expanding Love,

Patti

Dr. Patti Taylor, www.ExpandedLovemaking.com

Judgment-Free (and Zipless) Sex!

2007-05-03T11:46:00.000-07:00

Judgment-free (and zipless?) sex?

Imagine sitting across from your partner – looking at him or her as if you’d never met before just now. Everything they said, every action they took, and every nuance of their behavior would be new. Their jokes would be funny, and their touch, most likely, would be as electrifying as the first time their hands graced your skin.

That’s what Gary Douglas offers: the promise of judgment-free, purely present NOW-sex, coupled with the newness, hotness, and electricity that comes along with this.

A brilliant entertainer, with fabulous suggestions, and genius-level insight, Gary show us all how to keep having the most delicious, fulfilling, expansive sex of our lives.

To find out how you can have these exquisite experiences for yourself, tuned in to this week’s podcast: Sex Is Not a Four Letter Word, where I interview Gary Douglas. This is an interview to hear not once, but frequently. This message is timeless and precious.

To top it all, in the end, you’ll find out why your orgasm is your gift to the world. How much better does it get?

Available now on www.PersonalLifeMedia.com, and The Expanded Lovemaking Show: "Sex is Not A Four Letter Word", with Gary Douglas.

http://www.personallifemedia.com/podcasts/expanded-lovemaking/episode006-gary-douglas-beyond-orgasm.html

Check Me Out

2007-04-26T11:24:00.000-07:00

Hi All Lovemakers,

I have some really fun news –I’ve been interviewed on Francesca Gentille’s show, Sex, Tantra, and Kama Sutra. She’s a fabulous interviewer and we really play well together.

We explore some of my past: my kundalini awakening, and how it led to my getting into the practice of Expanded Orgasm. It changed my life.

I learned many ways (in addition to Expanded Orgasm) to return into that light – that vibration of love, connectedness, and bliss! We cover what you can do to create your own experience of going “into the light”: the orgasmic, accessible, Tantric version of blissful awakening.

Fortunately, in my lineage of Tantra, awakening can be as near as a subtle shift in your attention, or some simple breaths to re-center yourself. I tell you how to do this, and why it can change the very way you touch and feel your lover.

I also talk about entraining those around you, by getting into alignment in yourself and mastering your own vibrational frequencies.

You’ll also hear more about Sweetrocking, and how it can send you into an orgasmic state, whether you do this genitally or non-genitally.

Throw in some surprising hot appreciations recommended for both men and women, and you have a really great show! Join us on Sex, Tantra, and Kama Sutra, right here on the Personal Life Media Network. on http://www.personallifemedia.com/, and look for "Orgasm into the Light" with Dr. Patti Taylor.

Yours, as always, Dr. Patti Taylor,

www. ExpandedLovemaking.com

NYC EO Weekend June 22-24

2007-04-24T12:50:00.000-07:00

Dear Expanded Lovemakers,

I am returning to New York City the weekend of June 22-24 to teach an Expanded Orgasm weekend. Friday night will be a discussion and party event on Expanded Orgasm and its deep Tantric connections. Saturday will be appropriate for singles and couples, and Sunday will be for couples only. Space is limited for the Sunday event, so register early to let us know for sure that you can make it and to reserve your spot.

We'll have details on the www.ExpandedLovemaking.com website shortly, and also at www.SexySpirits.com. You can email Anton if you need more information, Anton@sexyspirits.com. If you've never done one of my events before, you are in for a treat as they are a lot of fun! And if you've done more than one, you'll know they're never the same experience twice.

I am planning to come back to NY to teach an advanced course for which this class (or one of our previous week-end classes) is a prerequisite. Certificates will be issued for all playshops you attend.

By now I’m guessing you’ve checked out my audio podcasts at www.personallifemedia.com (The Expanded Lovemaking Show). I just can’t wait until you hear some of our upcoming interviews – they're making “expanded org*smic” history for sure. Plus, I'm on the verge of submitting not one, but two books to my agent.

I'm starting to teach in the SF Bay Area as well, and planning a much more in-depth certification program, as well as preparing various information products.

In these days when we're all so busy, it's a rare and precious opportunity when we can come together and share energy. In one moment and one touch, a universe of information can be communicated. Transformation happens quickly with touch, especially in a room filled with transformative, touch-full energy and enthusiastic fellow seekers. There is no substitute imaginable for being together in person.

Finally, I will have a few extra time slots surrounding my arrival and departure, starting Wednesday the week before and ending the Tuesday after the weekend. If you would like to arrange some private time with me, please let me know as soon as possible. I am certain to book up very quickly.

In Ever-Expanding Love,

Patti

Dr. Patti Taylor,

www.ExpandedLovemaking.com

Margot Anand - As Vibrant as Ever

2007-04-20T17:04:00.000-07:00

Hi All,

My interview with Margot Anand is now available. Wow~

I just interviewed Margot in January, and remember feeling postively, absolutely dazzled in her presence.

Her clarity, her freedom, her strength of intention, her way of being, her laughter … her carefree-ness, her genius… her beauty … and of course, her wisdom, are just some of what hit me in cycles, when not coming at me all at once. She is truly a radiant being, loving, generous, and also quite artistic, vulnerable, and real.

Now… how would you like a chance to meet Margot? You can, by checking out our interview, just up, on www.PersonalLifeMedia.com and the Expanded Lovemaking Show.

I just listened to it once more, and felt all those same things yet again. I was totally *turned on* by what she had to say!

Tantra can supercharge your whole life, and your partner’s life, with orgasmic energy. I love hearing Margot share how bringing orgasmic energy up the body will change the way you experience not just sex, but love, and even life!

Plus… she shares freely about her own life and the new directions she wants to take.

Do tune into these vibes for a super-inside look at Tantra today!

Sweetrock in Red Rock, Sedona, (AZ), May 4-6

2007-04-18T12:25:00.000-07:00

Dear Expanded Lovemakers,

Last night started out like any other normal night. My partner came over to practice Sweetrocking with me, since I am going to be presenting a workshop in Sedona (at the Sacred Sexuality Conference, May 4-6) on Sweetrocking. We had dinner, enjoyed the sunset, and planned our practice.

Have you been to one of our groups where we covered Sweetrocking? It's a way of entering a mutually pleasurable resonant system. It's immensely enjoyable in itself, but you can also use it to trigger orgasmic states.

Up we went to practice. As per my instructions, he started with a larger part of my body - rocking my hips with a certain kind of kinesthetic “listening”. However, you can ‘sweetrock’ someone from almost any body location, under the right circumstances. “Okay, now,” I said, “lower your energy (the energy that you’re kinesthetically applying) to about 1/5 of what it was. Now, take that extra energy and send it into me instead of onto me.”

“Visualize it going throughout my entire body. It has to feel good to you as well as to me, and that means you'll be feeling me as well as you at all times. After you start doing it, the words will make sense, but possibly not before.”

We started experimenting with several positions to get it just perfect. Every two people have certain co-resonant vibrational frequencies. When discovered and enhanced, they can send you both into this amazing universe of energy. In minutes he had found our resonance. Suddenly, the words made total sense – we were transported into sweetrocking bliss! What a wonderful time we had! It totally enhanced our next activity….

Does this sound interesting? If so, and you can make it to Sedona, I'll be presenting Sweetrocking there! This hot new technology of pleasure can be given non-genitally as well as genitally. It really helps to feel it for your-self! The conference is going to be a huge amount of fun. Here’s the link: http://www.sedonatemple.com/events.html.

Love and blessings to all,

Dr. Patti Taylor

www.ExpandedLovemaking.com

ps Save the Dates for New York weekend, June 22-24!

Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

The Art of Giving Using Psychic Energies

2007-04-12T12:45:00.000-07:00

Hi all,

This week, Ray Vetterlein comes on as my guest talking about psychic energy, and how to be a master giver of extended orgasmic pleasure. Ray blows me away. I know him personally, so I know for a fact that he has been giving women amazing pleasure for over 40 years.

Let’s dig deeper. Ray is 81 years old, so giving pleasure has been a major part of half his life. It permeates his being. Giving pleasure is living pleasure for Ray. Because Ray can give orgasmic pleasure with his hands, Ray has escaped – or at least navigated– many of the sexual issues that many men confront as they age around what happens in terms of male performance.

Every year, Ray simply becomes a better lover, regardless of whether his prostate gets enlarged, or his Viagra shipment gets delayed (or whatever his issues - if any - may be – I haven’t asked for details). I’m talking big picture here: Learning to give pleasure has been a fabulous insurance “pleasure policy” for Ray.

I see this happen time and time again. Ray is such a wonderful role model for the rest of us. This is one interview you will want to listen to more than once!

Go to www.personallifemedia.com and click on The Expanded Lovemaking Show, or, find me by seaching in I-tunes, under the Expanded Lovemaking show.

What Was That I Just Had?

2007-04-12T12:39:00.000-07:00

Was that an Orgasm?

Many women ask me that question - how can they know when they have come?

I understand why. While it may be true that men and women have a smorgasbord of orgasmic sensations, a man can see when his cock is hard, and, when a man ejaculates, we assume he’s had an orgasm.

With women, there *might* be certain external signs, like breathing, sounds, and/or movement, but, often we can’t easily see a hard clit. And, if a woman doesn’t ejaculate, then, by what standard do we say she has come? All this of course begs the question, what really constitutes a woman’s orgasm?

According to Dr. Beverly Whipple, who’s researched women’s orgasms in her new book The Science of Orgasm, four different types of nerves signal the brain with ecstatic, orgasmic pleasure, originating from various parts of the body, such as the G-spot, the clitoris, and the cervix. (http://www.stuff.co.nz/stuff/timaruherald/4017648a19716.html). Whipple also says people can experience orgasm - an intense pleasurable response - from stimulation of many parts of their bodies, not just the genitals.

Coming can feel like a faint trickle of fun, or a kilo of dynamite continually going off, and everything in between. So, ladies, let’s drop trying to decide whether we’ve had an orgasm, and surrender to feeling all the pleasure that’s possible, from all those wonderful locations!

Next time, just for fun, try asking, “Did I just have an intensely pleasurable response?”

Yours.
Dr. Patti

Expanded Lovemaking Factoids

2007-03-25T16:05:00.000-07:00

Hi all, I thought I’d take a moment to post a little science. These little factoids got me thinking about "regular" sex and the practices of Expanded Orgasm and Expanded Lovemaking.

(from 10 THINGS YOU NEVER KNEW ABOUT SEX)

http://www.thedigitalbeat.com/2007/03/sex.html

1. The typical lovemaking session lasts around 15 minutes: roughly 10 to 12 minutes of foreplay and around 3 to 5 minutes of intercourse.

2. Crank up that thermostat. Orgasms may be more intense in warmer conditions.

3. Sex cures headaches. Endorphins released into our bloodstream when we have sex not only give us pleasure but also act as painkillers.

4. Many elderly can and do have frequent sex. At age 70, 73% of males are still potent, and 30% of women 80 or older still have sex.

5. 70% of women would rather eat chocolate than have sex.

Comments, anyone?
- If the sex were better, would you have more orgasms and less chocolate?
- Can you come when it’s cold?
- Have you ever had sex to cure a headache?
- How long does your lovemaking last?
- And… if the average lovemaking session is 15 minutes… what’s a quickie?

Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

Join the Party!

2007-03-19T09:22:00.000-07:00

Dear Expanded Lovemakers,

I apologize! Wow, in my enthusiasm, my last e-zine went out a few days early. Today's The Day: Launch Day, March 19. So, today is the day that you can go to www.personallifemedia.com and actually click on my show, the Expanded Lovemaking Show.

(And, as I said before, you can go to I-tunes, and type in either Expanded Lovemaking - or Personal Life Media, and then look up my show!)

Since we're talking now anyway, may I share with you a little more about the shows?

You'll see that in our first few shows, I talk to Anton, my co-host, about how to win women's hearts through Taontric massage -- something Anton fused from Tantra and Taoist massage that's easy to learn, and yet one of the deepest, and most orgasmic ways to spread love through touch I've ever heard about.

Gary Douglas, world famous leader of Access Energy Transformation, rivets us with his fabulous and highly entertaining wisdom on gloriously judgment-free-sex. Dr. Gary Schubach mesmerizes us with his secrets about the amazing G-spot and female empowerment, and Margot Anand of SkyDancing Tantra dazzles us with her insights, personal life revelations, and hot scenes from her new DVD.

In future shows, we'll learn from others in the field of deliberate orgasm, like More University, Ray Vetterlein, and the Bodanskys! In general we'll hear about the pleasure-giving techniques from many cultures, and what master pleasure givers do to make their love-making special.

We'll also hear from people, possibly like yourself, who want to be given a voice. I want others to know that this path is real for everyday people . What do they do to meet the everyday challenges to attain mastery? They do succeed. I meet masters all the time in my practice, and very few of them are public figures. I feel it's time we all meet more of the great many of us who have genius in this area.

You can read my editorial calendar right here on the Expanded Lovemaking home page. And, I have a blog on Personal Life Media, where you can share your opinions, triumphs, and questions.

Everything we say and do on the show is geared towards you, our listener. I want you to go out and make the hottest, juiciest, loving connections of your life, each and every time you listen to our show.

So, oops about the second e-mail - I didn't mean to clutter your mailbox. But maybe it's perfect. I would be so thrilled to think that you would come and check us out. Would you join all of us at PLM celebrate our worldwide party? And while you're at it -- I have to tell you, all the other shows I've checked out are absolutely fabulous! Check out my fellow presenters... I have!

The founders Tim and Susan Bratton have an extraordinary vision of bringing a special flavor of empowered consciousness to the planet. I believe it will make your day to know you have so many resources at your beck and call. And... all for free. And all for you.

Thank you, thank you, thank you! for your time, your interest, and, your openness to personal pleasure and empowerment.

Yours in ever expanding love,

Dr. Patti Taylor,

www.expandedlovemaking.com

My New Audio Podcast

2007-03-14T11:10:00.000-07:00

Today I have some exciting news! I've been having an incredibly good time working with a new network, Personal Life Media, putting together The Expanded Lovemaking Show. I have been interviewing some of the most amazing people in the pleasure industry, and learning some of the most exciting secrets they have to share in the areas of how to have better vibrancy of connection, lovemaking, and orgasms - just to name a few topics.

The Personal Life Media Network launches on March 19. I want to invite you personally to check out our shows. You can go to www.personallifemedia.com and click on my show, Expanded Lovemaking, to read more about the description and some of our exciting guest lineup.

My suggestion? Go today check it out, and bookmark the page. See if you want to subscribe. Or, you could go right into iTunes, look up and bookmark Expanded Lovemaking. You can hear the first show now - it's me, being interviewed about Expanded Orgasm.

In addition, I have a fabulous co-host Anton who does shows on Expanded Lovemaking every other week. And, I've had the chance to listen to lots of other shows that are going to open too! Personal Life Media has designed all its shows for people seeking personal growth, evolution, health, success, and pleasure - how cool is that?

Personal Life Media is a great network – and we are giving a great party! You can go to Itunes, search on Personal Life Media, and, under Publishers, check out all their entire lineup while you're at it. Please, do join us!!!

Yours, as ever,
Dr. Patti Taylor
www.ExpandedLovemaking.com

Is this the End or Intermission?

2007-02-27T19:44:00.000-08:00

Expanded Lovemaking, practiced as an art form, is about getting out of our story, and sticking with the processes we learn, through thick and thin.

Yesterday, we had been flirting, doing nice things for each other, rubbing elbows, blowing kisses, and cuddling. I was generally sending out those “come get me signals” all day.

So, when we finally started our Expanded Orgasm date, within moments I was climbing up a staircase of sensation that carried us both along, like a river effortlessly carries a raft with two happy people aboard. My breathing was full and deep and whole-bodied. I spread the sensation to prevent myself from going over the edge too soon. His expert hands were simultaneously like butter and like rubber bands, melting into me and yet pulling me this way and that, confusing me enough to send my body singing into a sweet surrendered song.

Like a symphony filling Music Hall, several sensational crescendos began building perfectly. That is, until my beloved slowed down, suddenly, his touch eking its way over the next two minutes to a draggy drawl.

Okay, how, what, and why? But, by the time I had stopped to ponder as much, my body had come in for a semi-orgasmic landing. I had “gone over a low edge”: going over an edge, but not a truly satisfying, or completely definitive “finale” kind of edge, be it a star-birth, epiphany, magic-carpet ride, or anything that has a name.

We could have put on our best appearances, ending there, grateful for all that we did experience. Hey, let’s just give it two more minutes, he suggested. I agreed, and we started to play again.

Patiently, he lovingly played with my most delicate flower while I did my best to feel anything. I couldn’t. Not two, but rather, five minutes of no feeling must have gone by before suddenly I felt something felt really, really good! And up we went, and up, up, and away from there.

And that’s the real story here. We took our attention off our frustration, and returned to the art of having presence, feeling, connection, and pleasure. Rather than getting stuck, we retuned to our practice, and our art. Did we make totally new and amazing music together? Yes!

And, we learned something new: Low edges do not always mean the end of a date! They may just be a very promising intermission!

Yours in ever-expanding love,
Dr. Patti Taylor
www.ExpandedLovemaking.com

Falling as I'm Climbing

2007-02-19T09:19:00.000-08:00

I was well into my sensual pleasuring date the other day with my beloved. His right hand was placed firmly on my favorite spot on my clit, and his left hand was delicately balanced, with two fingers up to the second knuckle, reaching in and teasing my G-spot. My partner was reaching into me – or was I reaching into him? I felt waves of pleasurable sensation pulsing all the way from my my abdomen to my thighs. I even felt micro-pulses inside my vaginal canal that just about took me over the edge time and time again, but each time, I relaxed to spread the energy. Long ago Mr. Fabulous had learned not to drop me when we reached these places. Still, I could feel myself searching for his next wave of touches.

Delicious waves of sensation alternately crept through me, and then shot through me, delivering doses of pure feeling that just seemed to fill me with just about as much pleasure as I could handle. In those moments, just subtle seconds, my whole being wanting to hold on, even grab a little, and ask for more. Then I would drop back, into relaxation, to savor for a few split seconds more, the energy coursing through my neural networks. This seemed to be going on in cycles.

“Wow”, my beloved said, “You're falling as you're climbing”.

He gave me more sensation within a moment or two, careful not to drop me in the process. In my orgasmic reverie, I considered this comment. How often things make sense “out there”. And how nice, that, finally, in pure pleasure, they don’t have too.

Pleasure thrives in a place of not making perfect sense! I'm reaching as I'm relaxing, and enjoying as I'm letting go.

So here's wishing you a day where at least one thing in it doesn't make total sense just because it's so totally wonderful!

Yours in ever-expanding love,

Dr. Patti Taylor

www.ExpandedLovemaking.com

PS: I have a special request. If you have read my book Expanded Orgasm, and enjoyed it, I would love it if you would consider posting a review for me on www.Amazon.com? (it doesn't have to be long or eloquent, just your own words.) And, it can even be from "a reader" if you wish. Many thanks!

P.S.S. Get ready: Very shortly, I'll be announcing the opening of my new Internet audio podcast show on Expanded Lovemaking! It's going to be really hot and super fun!

The Love Thing

2007-02-06T10:02:00.000-08:00

Women have a thing about love. Personally, I have mixed feelings about the word and have tried to avoid defining it. Still, I'm often pressed to do so to eagerly awaiting females, pens in hand. They seem to want to capture love, own it, control it... or maybe, just, understand it, so that they can have more of it.

Well, I did develop a definition for love. It's a working one I use as a "rule of thumb" to test for myself, "is it love"? It's a very "in the moment" kind of love.

Three conditions must be met:
- Do you see the other person's perfection (or find them right just the way they are in this moment) without wanting to change them?
- Are you willing to communicate honestly from a caring - not changing - place? (This would involve some risk-taking).
- Are you willing to open yourself up to vulnerability (again, in this moment)?

By this definition, a lot of women would pass with flying colors at a romantic candle-lit dinner. But women, what would your score be the next time your beloved wants to give you sexual pleasure in the bedroom?

Are you going to tell him what you want, where to touch you, and how it feels? How joyful you are to be with him (if this is true)... how much you want him to notice when the two of you lose connection and you need his encouragement to keep talking and touching... (or whatever it is you are risking to share)?

Guys want love, too. They tend to fall in love (and lust) with the woman that they're giving a lot of sexual loving pleasure to. I've had more candle-lit dinners after great sex than you could ever imagine!

Yours in ever-expanding love,
Dr. Patti Taylor

Copyright 2007 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

Praises for my “Trained Man”

2007-01-18T08:28:00.000-08:00

My partner – as you might expect – is an amazing “trained man” – trained to give me maximum pleasure when we hook up for a date. One aspect I love is his ability to energetically turn on a dime. Case in point: Yesterday was one of those nutty stressful days. He ran around with his hair screaming out in ten directions. He ate cereal with barbeque sauce and didn't notice. He talked in half-sentences because even he didn’t want to listen to himself!

But come time for our date, Mr. Amazing left it all outside the room in one second flat. He knows all too well that every thought and feeling of his goes directly from his mind, through his body, and into mine. I feel all of him: the good, the bad, the neutral, the joyful, and the loving. And he decided he wanted me to feel the good stuff. So, he’d better go get the good stuff from inside of him.

He touched me from the start in this melty way that had me start letting go in seconds, not minutes. He cooed like a dove, bringing us both into a new dimension of feeling and awareness. In minutes, my pussy was throbbing, reaching, and hungering for his touch. Next he teased me. My clit was laughing, dancing, and begging for his attention. Now he shape-shifted into the big old bear who wouldn’t give me what I wanted (okay, just for a little while) before showering me with delicious, all-over, endorphin-rich, blissfully perfected energy reaching me in places I never knew existed! This went on and on. He took me over edge after edge….

Apparently, there is life after stress. An expanded lovemaking life that never ceases to amaze me.

Your, in ever-expanded training… and love!

Dr. Patti
www.ExpandedLovemaking.com

Keeping It Smooth

2007-01-09T11:12:00.000-08:00

Keeping it Smooth….

Keeping it smooth… is something I also call “continuity of touch”. It is one of the easiest sexual techniques you can to learn to apply to whisk your lover into those legendary and magical places. And it is also one of the nicest of techniques, of course, to receive. It is an excellent technique to start with for bringing someone into a more expanded state of being using physical touch.

What is continuous, anyway? We think usually of continuous as something that is unbroken through time. Smooth, slinky, silky, swishy, glide-y, sexy… continuous feelings evoke sensuous moods. You want to sway your body, dance to the music, let go of the rigid control of the mind, and start to feel the music. Even now, feel the feelings in your being. Are you ready to let this state of “Smoooottthhhhh…..” share the real estate in your consciousness? Just thinking about being smooth has some people naturally begin to let go and relax.

So keep it smooth when you touch your partner, and watch the results of your date go up, up and away! You’ll want to begin by feeling smooth actions in your own body first. Run your hand up and down your own body, so continuously that you don’t stop or even notice little pauses. This can and most likely will take some practice! (Three minutes is more than enough). Once you have this mastered, extend smoothly, sweetly, luxuriously, … continuously… to touch your partner’s arm or face.

What feels good on an arm or face feels just as good on your partner’s genitals. But a few differences do exist between stroking arms and your beloved’s most private parts! Continuous stroking on genitals is a key ingredient to expanding orgasms. However, it’s a little – no, a lot less charge-y to start on your sweetheart’s alluring arm or fabulous face than on her red-hot and possibly throbbing vagina (or his crowning glory), so do take the time to practice continuity on the easy places first! Plus, it’ll turn your partner on like crazy.

Okay, once you’re here, at the nerve-rich clitoris, or g-spot, (for women) or penis and prostate (for men) … remember what you learned! Make your touch continuous and smooth and you’ll find the two of you transported on a bullet train to bliss!

So keep it smooth, baby…, keep it smooth….

Till next time,

Yours in ever sweet, smooth, silky, slithery and sensational Expanding Love,

Dr. Patti
www.ExpandedLovemaking.com

Happy New You!

2006-12-31T18:28:00.000-08:00

Dear Expanded Lovemakers,

Have you heard the one where the Zen Monk goes to New York City and orders a hot dog from a vendor? He says, “Make me one with everything”. The vendor makes him a hot dog and takes his money. The monk expects his money back and when he doesn't get it says, “Where’s my change?” “Ah”, says the vendor “Change comes from within.”

This joke reveals how we much expect the right thing to happen at the right place and time. The same event becomes funny when it’s the right thing at the wrong time.

Aren’t we all just chock-full of thousands of judgments about what's right and wrong? What if we could just dump those judgments and enjoy every moment – especially during sex?

How cool would that be, since, when it comes to sex and pleasure, right and wrong events usually do not lead to harmless laughter, but often to more serious developments, like shutting down, embarrassment, trauma, hurt, and fear. Plus, we quit having fun with sex.

Have you got lots of judgments right this very nano-second about sexuality – yours, mine, and everyone else's? Are you wondering, “Wow. I’d love to drop my judgments about sex. But how?”

AH!!! Here’s the true secret of enlightenment: It’s as close as a subtle shift away. (In other words, enlightened sex is not to be found in with some guru in the Himalayas…. It’s in a Hot Dog Vendor!) Okay… just kidding on this one.

Seriously, though. You don’t need to go to the Himalayas…. It’s all here, in your own, simple, amazing attitude about fun. Just keep asking yourself, would you rather be right, or have fun?

So the next time your lover slips on a banana peel – (say it’s *your* greased clit or cock), and their hand flies, on a fumble, up your nose… well, did you know that the nose is full of erectile tissue? If your nose knows this isn’t the place to be, solicit their slithering digits to slide slippery-slope down to your lips! Aha…. more erectile tissue! Now maybe lips are more to your liking (and licking)? Hmm, perhaps, now’s the time to become one with everything… wink, wink….starting with that friendly finger fondling your galactic smile!

Happy New You! To all my Dear Readers,

In Expanded Laughter,

Dr. Patti
www.ExpandedLovemaking.com

The Sweetest Gift of All

2006-12-24T12:51:00.000-08:00

'Tis the night before Christmas, and perhaps all your presents are already neatly wrapped beneath the tree, or bush, or candles. So here's the question for all of you that are still wondering, “Is there something extra-special that I can give to my beloved?”

You bet there is there is! Attention the sweetest gift of all.

The technical aspects of how you might give attention are easy. You'll get a scrap of your most sparkle-y gift-wrapping, and offer a specific amount of time, in writing, to your partner: 15 minutes, a half an hour, maybe even an hour. Roll your treasure into a scroll and bow it up. Give an amount of time for which you truly feel you can give your full, 100% attention. Quality of attention will trump quantity.

Almost certainly, the thing you would like to receive the most is not the thing your partner would like to receive the most.

You may long to have your partner gaze into your eyes silently for 15 minutes. Or, perhaps, you dream of the day when your partner will take you over the edge of an orgasm and prolong that edge, and not stop as you go over, but keep going, while you give him or her feedback, so as to prolong that orgasm, not the normal two or three minutes, but to experiment with keeping it going for a full 15 minutes, regardless of what happens. The exploration of what happens after the explosive over-the-edge part of lovemaking is what might be fun for him or her. (Note: I’ve gotten this one before, so take my word, this really can be a fun gift).

For your partner, attention might look like help with cleaning out the garage. Or could it turn into an exploration of languorous, loving oral sex on your new couch (after all, might not every piece of furniture in the house be christened?) or, perhaps, a probing, playful prostate massage with a new lube specially purchased for this purpose?

They say it's the thought that counts. I say, it's the attention that counts... and, in this case, often, what comes along with the attention!

Happy Expanded Holidays!

Yours in Ever-Expanded Love,

Dr. Patti

PS. Have you subscribed to my blog by checking on the chicklet that says, “Subscribe in a reader”. I suggest this, since more and more email providers are blocking e-zines using aggressive spam filters these days. (I send out both, and would love to invite you to join my e-zine too. Only, I've had problems getting my own e-zine. And I do post far more frequently to my blog.) Do come and visit, and sign up to my blog. Stay current, and post comments, if you wish.

We are coming out soon with a slew of new products and services. Trust me! You won’t want to miss the news about any one release! Every offering is designed to take your love-life into the sweetest, and most wondrous of loverspaces.

Advice to Love to Love You, Babe

2006-12-19T09:05:00.000-08:00

Dear Dr. Patti,

I love my husband, and he loves me, but he's been working so hard lately that we never seem to have the chance to just unwind, and you know what that means. Unwinding leads to a yummy massage, which leads to even hotter action! I can't seem to get our frolicking love-fest started. He’s so focused on what happened during the day that when we get to bed all he wants to do is chill. How can we start our transition? Signed, Love to Love You, Babe

Dear Love to Love You, Babe,
I got the picture. Hubby is happy to hug, but can't switch off the Work Channel. Did someone else gain possession your remote? Well, fight fire with fire, by hiring him yourself, tonight! At dinner, pull out his appointment book and make an entry for nine o'clock this evening. Negotiate some duties. Make them really easy and fun ones, like slowly trickling his pinky in the crease of your elbow, or tracing his tongue around the sides of your ear lobe. Charge him like, fifteen dollars. (Depending on the guy, some guys might actually respond with greater glee if you actually make them pay *you* for the privilege of letting them do this to you.) You know your guy. If he’s in the kind of a mood where he wants or needs a challenge instead, you can plan a session where he's to grace your gorgeous g-spot (once you’re fully engorged, of course!) with at least three new creative ideas. Anyway, what have you got to lose? Everything glorious and good starts with a single pleasurable stroke!

Yours in ever expanding love,

Dr. Patti

My trip to Niagara Falls

2006-12-16T11:02:00.000-08:00

Last night started out on a pretty low note. I had a minor injury at the gym, and, quite frankly, I was feeling somewhat sorry for myself. I was not in the mood for fun, love, or pleasure. Okay - I was in a really good, deep, blue, good old-fashioned funk. A tailspin. My partner tried talking to me. I was kind enough to tell him empathy would go further than advice. He switched from talking to hugging, and that helped some.

Now I going to ask you to guess, what are the chances that we could have had any kind of a reasonable sensual connection? Here are your choices: “One in 10”. “Could be anything”. “I have no idea”. Or “Excellent”. Give this some thought.

The answer is “Excellent”. The path of Expanded Lovemaking is a profound path. We train ourselves to live moment by moment, and to use each moment as fuel to inform and feed our lovemaking. The ups, and even the downs, are grist for the mill, and fire for our passions.

I knew that. But still, I had to get into that mindset.

On a night like last night, my needs for tenderness, loving, caring sensitivity, connection, and grounding touch were so strong that every kind of attention coming my way was certain to help me a change my present mindset channel into a far better scene.

Despite the prospects for perking up, part of me wanted to prolong my poor-me program. And this is where my “lover’s training” really came through. (Yes, you really can train to be a good lover!) I simply made an arbitrary decision to choose pleasure over pain.

I chose pleasure. I began to visualize Niagara Falls, and then myself, riding down it, effortlessly, on a magical raft, as if I were carried away into a cascade of fresh, churning, healing emotional pleasure. I savored this pooling of bliss while allowing heartfelt nurturing to stream rapidly (and joyfully) into my body, mind, and spirit.

Once I had made this choice, well … I leave it to your imagination to imagine what happened next!

Play Attention!~

2006-12-12T10:34:00.000-08:00

Attention

Last night my partner was bugging me to tell him how other men stacked up to him as a lover. Naturally I was reluctant to answer him until I exacted several layers of promises that this information would not be used against me – or himself. After I had gotten a healthy dose of reassurance – looking deep into his eyes, taking his pulse, checking for fever, (ruling out temporary insanity), etc., I thought long and hard. Finally convinced of his sincerity, and also of his determination not to stop asking me, I answered.

With the best lovers, it's a matter of attention. They know how to find my favorite sensual and sexual spots to stay on, both inside and out. They know “where”, and “how” to touch. But it's more than that. They also know how to take me up and down, energetically, without dropping me. And that’s the timing, the “when”. Attention covers all of these points, all at once.

Imagine a plane trying to gain some loft. With just the right amount of acceleration, there will be a steady take off as the plane reaches enough altitude to go above the clouds. However, without enough combined sources of energy (the right mix of where, how, and when) in the beginning, that same plane becomes a “puddle-jumper” – it makes several trips up to tree-level, but then returns down to the ground, never to see the clouds. Puddle-jumpers never reach that critical loft, or effortless place (a.k.a. “the fun in the sun”). You do take a trip, but just not through the fabled clouds into lover-land.

Can you get there (or take someone there)? Yes! Attention ultimately creates that longed-for “lover’s loft”. So yes! It does take training, though, to have great attention. However, great attention has a super-charged payoff.

Attention is what has the giver of pleasure notice when his sensuous strokes are bringing you, the receiver, up too fast, or not fast enough. Attention is what has your partner notice when you need more stimulation, a softer touch, a stronger touch, or whatever! Attention has a great lover give you that symphony of perfect pleasure in every moment, just as you energetically reach for whatever it takes to climb to the next stair-step of sensation in the sky.

I thought my partner would faint by the end of my revelation. I checked his face. Would he be bright red or pasty white by now? But he was busily taking mental notes, paying a huge amount of attention to everything I was saying.

Smiling, he reassured me he’d heard everything I’d said. He then proceeded to get further clarification so that we could practice some advanced attention skills right away.

Ah, what wonderful things attention brought us last night!

A Recent Letter

2006-12-09T21:35:00.001-08:00

The other day I got the following letter:

Dear Dr. Patti,

I'd just love to learn about Expanded Orgasm. But I'm not sure if I could survive coming for an hour! While I sure do love that explosion of pleasure, I find it hard enough to go over the edge for more than about two minutes, or have an orgasmic "session" that lasted longer than about twenty minutes. I'm afraid my nerves would get fried right down to the bone. Is there hope for someone like me?. Signed, Hopeful but maybe Fried

Dear Hopeful, (and can we drop the "Fried?"),

Expanded Orgasm is not about time... it's about experience beyond time .. and space. A person can be in a state of deep expanded orgasm for seconds, minutes, or hours - and this applies to men and women alike.

As for the nervous system, I'm thinking of the experience I had yesterday... my entire being (and its neurology!) was flooded with profoundly pleasurable sensation, streaming through like a river, continuously, as I continued to breathe deeply, nourishing my entire nervous system with feeling, and delight, and letting go. (I am guessing this part extended about twenty minutes.)

As I went 'over' the edge... (about five minutes, according to my partner, in clock time) ... actually more like, "though an edge" - I am thinking of the snowcap of a mountain, but now, this peak has rivers running from source, and this peak is alive with streaming, it's a domain with no beginning and no end, and my body is swept through to various levels of contractions, uterine, vaginal, labial, abdominal... transmuting into effortless sequences of full body vibrations.

So, afterwards, well, it's actually quite the opposite of feeling fried... it's deeply restorative, with a sense of powerful fullness and largeness - a sense of physical, energetic immensity.

Ultimately, it's about connecting with the Current, that universal OM...

So, of course, you can always start by getting my book (Expanded Orgasm: Soar to Ecstasy at Your Lover"s Every Touch) or take one of my courses (sign up to my email list at www.ExpandedLovemaking.com to find out about these!). I'm also planning to offer podcasts, and videocasts, and this is where you'll get all my latest information.

In the meantime, connect with curiosity with your partner. Go out of time, out of space. Let his finger find a good place on you and then.. let go of goals like going over the edge. (This sounds hard, but that"s where the fun begins!)

Yours in ever-orgasmic pleasure,
Dr. Patti

Copyright 2006 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

What is it About Words....?

2006-12-09T21:32:00.000-08:00

What is it about words that are so powerful? Have you ever noticed how they have the ability to take you deeply into an experience .. or out of one?

Okay, I am not talking about the obvious stuff, like being in the middle of a delicious, vibrant, hot, wet, juicy, Expanded Orgasm date and having your partner yell, FIRE! Even I'd get up and run out of the room. (Assuming he wasn't referring to what he was feeling running up and down his arm). Presumably, my consciousness would be expanded enough to know whether to run or stay!

No, I am talking about common words. ..You feel soooo good... ..You look reallllllly pretty... These work! Rule of thumb.. anything that starts with the word ..YOU.. is going to make ..ME.. feel like the center of attention and feel pretty wonderful.

So how about when you really want to blast off? What can I say, as the receiver of pleasure, when my luscious lover is, well, just a little distracted? I want to take him out of his head, for one thing. Often, he's actually trying too hard to please me and it's backfiring.

"Spot! Where..s that $%&* Spot!" he's thinking, perhaps .. and he's in his head, and not watching/feeling/drooling over me. Or he's wondering how he's doing, or what I'm thinking, or, whatever. He's not feeling fire running up his arm, that's for sure, and neither am I!

I did this last night. We entered into a bit of a lull, and I asked my partner to get a little drunk with me. ..Be drunk in love.., I cooed. That catapulted him right out of his mind. I reminded him not to fall out of bed, or off my spot, but to sway a little in the breeze, like being drunk yet in a boat, anchoring to my spot, all the while pleasuring me.

Worked like a charm. Flames were leaping soon.. the good kind!

Yours in ever-expanding pleasure,
Dr. Patti

www.ExpandedLovemaking.com

Copyright 2006 Patricia H. Taylor, PhD. All Rights Reserved.

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2006-12-09T21:18:00.000-08:00

Hello everybody!

I'm Dr. (PhD) Patti Taylor - and this blog is devoted to Expanded Lovemaking, a path of profound and ever-increasing pleasure, bliss, and consciousness.

You can learn more about me (and sign up for my events calendar and private mailing list) on my website, www.ExpandedLovemaking.com.

For more than 15 years, I've taught thousands of people to be better lovers, experience way more pleasure, and to be able to embrace and experience the rapture available to every one of us in every moment. I've written two books, a PhD dissertation, and produced and starred in an educational video.

We'll talk about love, relationships, erotic energy, the power of mind/body/heart/spirit coherence, transcendence through the path of pleasure, and lots more! This is a wonderful way to have more fun and pleasurable connection in your life!

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- Dr. Patti
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